Celebrating the Life of
Anne Weaver
February 13, 1936 — February 1, 2021
About Anne
Please join the Weaver family for a virtual memorial service on Saturday April 9, 2022 at 2 to 3:30 pm Eastern.
Obituary
Anne Vonckx Weaver, 84, of Scituate, MA (most recently of Allerton House, Weymouth) passed away peacefully on February 1, 2021. She is survived by her children, the six M's: Marc Weaver of Boulder, CO; Marcia Weaver (Michael Chapko) of Seattle, WA; Martin Weaver (Jennifer Pasanen) of Brooklyn, NY; Megan Tooker (John) of Bellefonte, PA; Matthew Weaver of Freeport, ME; Meredith Weaver (Paul Piquado) of Geneva, CH; her ten joyful grandchildren (Alana, Makara, Andrew, Julia, Quinn, Sean, Adele, Tate, Danica, and Adam), her sister-in-law Elizabeth (Zanny) Milo of Seattle, WA; and her nieces, Elizabeth Vonckx (and her son, Martin) and Hilary Vonckx (Alex Clark) also of Seattle, WA. She was predeceased by her husband Wayne Weaver, her parents Paul and Alice Vonckx of Hingham, MA, her sister-in-law Norma Vonckx, and niece Jennifer Vonckx of Seattle, WA. Her brother Paul (Skip) Vonckx died on December 26th, 2021.
Anne was born in Arlington, MA. She grew up in Hingham and spent much time in Hingham Harbor sailing and swimming. She loved music and was a gifted piano player. She graduated from Thayer Academy and Smith College, where she was known fondly as Marty because of her appreciation of martinis. She moved to NYC to work in publishing at Scholastic and Book-of-the Month Club. Her adventures took her to Los Angeles, and Denver where she met Wayne. After enjoying the Flatirons, they moved to the South Shore to raise their family.
Anne loved Scituate and all it had to offer: her garden, the Spit, sailing, reading a good book, and plenty of opportunities for enjoying time with her many great friends. She prided herself on not being beholden to the clock and believing that rules could be bent for the benefit of good contributors to the community. She was adept at making new friends, making people comfortable, and sharing her pies. She is known for her thoughtful, if odd, gifts and leaving them unprompted on her friends door steps. She was a longtime member of the First Parish Unitarian Universalist Church and was active with their music program and choir.
She traveled the world and shared this joy with her family. She took her grandchildren on sailing trips, sightseeing in Egypt and Uganda, learning about evolution in the Galapagos, enjoying the arts in Paris, experiencing nature in Alaska and Yellowstone. She most recently traveled with family members to Argentina, Italy, Mexico, Maine, U.S. Virgin Islands, NYC, and Quebec City. She enthusiastically shared her passions for adventure, nature, conservation, women's rights, music, and culture. She was always up for getting something planted, jumping in the ocean, and digging for clams. Her can-do and will-do attitude will be missed.
Anne's family is planning a memorial service on April 9, 2022 at 2 pm eastern daylight time. If you feel compelled to donate in her memory, donations may be sent to the First Parish Unitarian Universalist Church Music Program or the North and South Rivers Watershed Association.
Services
Memorial Service
Saturday, April 9, 2022, 2:00 pm - 3:30 pm Eastern Time
You’ll be able to join the service by clicking on the link below. No need to create a Zoom account or enter a password. We will be online starting at 1:30 pm eastern to welcome you, offer video check, and brief technical assistance. If you need technical assistance, please dial 219-201-2186. The schedule for the virtual service is: 1:30 to 1:45 - Slide show 1:45 to 2:00 - Prelude, live streamed from First Parish Unitarian Universalist Church 2:00 to 3:00 - Memorial service live streamed from First Parish Unitarian Universalist Church 3:00 to 3:30 - Virtual reception moderated by Blue Butterfly 3:30 - Slide show You can download the order of service from First Parish Unitarian Universalist Church at the link on this website. Please contact [email protected] for additional information. Please feel free to forward this invitation to family members and mutual friends using the "Share" button above. If you are so inclined, we would love to read a few of your favorite memories of our beloved Anne. The link to the memorial page has space for your comments and stories, and to upload photos.
Memories and Condolences
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Sep 22, 2001 Joyous moment with Janie Culbert and Jo Scanzillo at Megan and John's wedding
Anne and Deborah giving directions while hiking in Irish bog
Feb 12, 2019 Florence had a luncheon to celebrate Anne's birthday. Anne was especially pleased that Merry traveled from Washington, DC to join us.
5/30/2018 Anne and Karen at the American Repertory Theater in Harvard Square to see “Jagged Little Pill”. Anne alwatpys had great ideas to do something fun! She always made an outing into an adventure!
Anne, Martin and Lizzie in Scituate.
When I remember Anne, I think of a beautifully illustrated book, where every page and chapter is unique and special. One chapter describes an extremely bright and well-read person who could express her opinion about any serious subject, but wasn’t afraid to be silly. She was joyful and fun, but didn’t shy away from hard conversations. Another chapter touts her love of travel and adventure, yet balances her stillness and tranquility in her gardens or when enjoying a good read. Anne was a “collector” of people and friends, and often brought them together to enrich their lives and hers. She loved her many family members above all. Anne’s story was filled with and ended with courage, generosity, friendship and love. I share her loss with so many friends and relatives. My life was greatly enhanced with her friendship.
Anne and Wayne Weaver were fixtures at every rowing race, cheering on their daughter, Merry. As her teammate, I got to enjoy the parental hugs of joy when we won and hugs of condolence when we lost. On these cold Spring weekends, they’d take us out for a warm lunch and then drive off … until the next weekend. Anne was such a happy, energetic presence in my life through Merry. I enjoyed going to her house in Scituate, watch her walk Merry down the aisle, and attend my wedding as well.
The death of a dear friend makes us realize just how precious were the years that we were able to enjoy our friendship. There are so many memories of the good times that we had with Anne and Wayne before he died. Our years in Scituate were filled with activities at First Parish Church, walks on the beach, clam digging, eating lobsters and many dinner parties where we enjoyed good conversation with mutual friends long into the evening hours. After our move to N.C. we stayed at Anne and Wayne's homes and enjoyed being back in Scituate for a bit. Anne made several visits to N.C. and from there we went to out of the way places like Jekyll Island and that wonderful trip to remote Sapelo Island that was several days of living with the natives and learning their wonderful history. Anne, you were always up to a last minute trip or spur of the moment day of fun! We resolve to treasure our friendship and to think of you as one of the stars that shine on us each night. You will always be with us.
A few years ago, I flew to Seattle, meeting Anne there onher cross-country road trip, so we could travel together back to my home in Sonora California . Along the way, after a Shakespeare evening in Ashland, Oregon, we decided to visit an organic apple farm that boasted over 1000 varieties from all over the world. The owner happily directed us to pick our own while he prepared a box of pears for us.
I was late arriving for my first day at Smith as I didn’t know we were supposed to change trains at Springfield. When I walked into Chaplin House, there was a group gathered around the piano and a strawberry-blonde was belting something out on the piano. It was such a cheerful and lively scene, that I immediately felt better and decided, “ I have to get to know that girl!” So began a friendship go over Fifty years. When I sailed away from Boston with Cathy Stair, another Smithie, to spend a year studying in Scotland, it was Anne who waved us off, and although I eventually married in England and moved to British’s Columbia, every time Ivisited my mother in New England, I visited Anne as well. In fact through the years she helped me so much with my mother; she could even make my mother laugh..She had such Sparkle! such Energy. I think she brought out the best in people. I know I shall always miss her. There is a large emptiness now. I am going to plant some sunflowers in remembrance. I truly loved her.